Being There...

Being there...

This weekend Brad and I brought in the new year with a much needed movie night!! The  movie we watched was "The Help." 
 Amazing movie and with so many great meanings behind it. As a mom, this movie in some ways touch my heart and really put prespective in the meaning  "being there" for your spouse or your child. Being there for someone can come in many different ways, whether it be emotionally, physically, or mentally. All three are extremely important for any relationship. Let me explain...

The movie "The Help" was by far one of the best movies I have ever watched! In the movie Abbaline was the help and May Mobley was the little girl she looked after. Every morning Abbaline woke up May Mobley and told her this phrase, "You is kind, you is smart, you is important." I want to scream this to the top of my lungs and say WOW!!! What a wonderful way of making a child feel the way everyone should feel about themselves. I would bet money that if every day you said positive things to your child you would see a difference in behavior and a difference in learning. When a child has positive feed back coming from some one else they are sure to do they best they can. For example; When Canon is putting together a puzzle I will say as he is doing it "Oh wow Canon it's lookin good!" or "This is going to be beautiful!! Keep Going!" Canon's response when he finishes is normally something like this " I made dis for you mommy" or "Look mom, Look what I MADEEE!!!" That little munchkin is so proud of himself he can barely stand it! Putting confidence in children will change the way they do things, they will strive for the best because that's what confidence does. Confidence puts the child in the right mind set to make things happen or to help them get a positive out come. Encourage children, help give them the right knowledge they want and need. I feel at the end of the day is all Canon wants, is to see approval and love. I know many adults to include myself that still find themselves seeking approval from their parents; I don't believe that feeling ever completely goes away. Everyone wants to make people proud of them especially the ones they care most for.  I know every day I try and be a good wife and mother to our children that brad can be proud to call me his own. I know every day I try and be the woman my parents taught me to be. 
To encourage or give confidence every day in someone is like turning on a light bulb in their head that says "hey, you can do it" or like the movie "you is kind, you is smart, you is important."

Being there for someone is not just a physical motion in life to stand and watch over someone; being there is like the phrase in the movie Juno--

In my opinion the best thing you can do is find a person who loves you for exactly what you are. Good mood, bad mood, ugly, pretty, handsome, what have you, the right person will still think the sun shines out of your ass. That’s the kind of person that’s worth sticking with. 

I would say that phrase can go with any relationship; family, friends, you name it.  I KNOW my husband is the true love of my life and we have been up and down to figure that out. I have four best friends that I KNOW if I picked up the phone they'd come running Hell or high water. I KNOW that my family puts the fun in dysfunctional family but they all are there in the good and bad times together. Being there is not just a statement; it's an action. That's what it's all about people!!!