There's a book called Love by Leo Buscaglia; I would recommend this book to anyone whether you are married, single, dating, or whatever your status may be.In this fabulous book Buscaglia talks about how people do not fall into love but grow into love. What a puzzling statement for some people; mainly for women who have believed in true love and their prince charming who they will find and fall madly in love with. Well after reading that statement I really thought about it...I decided i didn't want to fall in love, I wanted to slowly sink into it. (sounds romantic huh?)
Brad and I are truly the new age American family. Dated six months, We moved in together and BOOM nine months later sweet baby Canon! We didn't get married until canon was almost two. The way I looked at it was I didn't want him to marry me or feel obligated because I was having his child. I wanted him to marry me for the real deal holy field. I wanted that man to wake up every morning and look over next to him to see his wife that he couldnt or didn't want to live without. I wanted to be his partner in crime, his emergency contact, his better half (haha!) and his best friend. He knew we were going to work because "I am just as crazy as he is" as someone once said.
The importance of this topic today is one that I share with each one of my friends or family before they get married. Raising children is a walk in the park compared to making and keeping a successful marriage. For your children, when they are born it's as if there is no limit of love you have for this little human being. An unconditional fountain of love that flows freely. As for your spouse, this love grows to be unconditional as you grow as a pair. Even after being married, you continue to grow and strive as a pair. You learn your funny quirks about one another; some of them you love and some you hate but those little quirks are what makes the person of whom you love who they are. There is no such thing as a perfect marriage; A marriage is not going to survive only on love, you have to have the "ates"
1.) you have to communicate- highly important.
2.) you have to fornicate ---Yes I just wrote that!! :o) I'm writing the truth...
3.) and lastly, you have to appreciate!! Appreciate one another, whether it's when you wake up and say "thanks for being you babe;" big or small things. Just let them know you are aware of what they do for your and/or others.
Everyone has their ups and downs and much like the good saying if you only have high mountains without the little valleys in between what makes getting to the top of that mountain feel so good without a little challenge.
Love and trust yourself if you can do that then you can love and trust another. Here's a secret... Brad and I have done a lot of things backwards but our love is going to continue to take us forward.
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